Hello and welcome to another video
we often associate success with intelligence.
Specifically with the ability, to think, understand, and solve complex problems and thats why we
came to a conclusion that the smarter we are, the more successful we are going to be.
That sounds like a rational thinking.
In fact our entire school systems is designed to make us smarter.
But unfortunately I have some bad news, Intelligence is mostly genetic, which means that you are
born with it and you cant really change it much and I have explained that in another
video which link you can find in the description.
Now, Before you get disappointed, let me share with you the good news!
Being intellectually super smart isn't exactly what you want because intellect isn't necessarily
going to make you successful.
In fact this is the smartest person alive, his IQ is much higher than Einstein's one.
And I am optimistic that you haven't even heard about him and thats because he hasn't
achieved the kind of success that you are imagining.
What will determine your level of success is your emotional intelligence and guess what!
You can improve it as much as you want.
So why don't you hit that subscribe butting and the bell besides and find out how!
Lets understand what is emotional intelligence in the first place
There are many different types of emotions that effects our actions, Almost everything
we do is a result of one of them,
It might sound simple to manage your emotions but its extremely difficult in practice.
How many times you have found yourself getting angry and out of control?
how many times you found yourself constantly worried that you cant even sleep when you
really want that?
Even things such as, you level of motivation or confidence are a direct result of your
emotions.
Emotional Intelligence can be broken into 5 parts.
first, self awareness
Its the ability to realize and understand your own feelings.
Often when we get angry for example, we don't really realize we are in a state of anger
because our emotions are in control.
Its later on when we calm down, we regret the things we said or the things we did because
if we would have been conscious at that moment, we might had acted differently.
The ability to understand what you feel every moment will help you to manage them better.
Self awareness also allows you to understand your strength and weaknesses so you will take
better decisions when it comes to choose what to study in college or which job to accept
thats best for you!
Second, managing emotions
Most people are really bad at managing their emotions.
Something bad happens and we cant stop thinking about it for the whole day if not weeks.
Its already 2 am and you cant fall sleep because you are still stressed out about it - how
could he possible offend me, why didn't I do this instead of that.
Sometimes even if nothing bad is happening, we might remember something not so good happened
to us in the past and freak out again about it now and spoil the rest of the day.
Especially when we go through some real problems such as breaks ups, failure, rejection
we might spend days being sad, disappointed and angry at life.
Why did it happen to me?
Why I am always rejected?
Why me again!!!
This is all a result of not knowing how to manage your emotions.
and by improving your emotional intelligence, you will drastically free your mind from unnecessarily
worries and focus more on the beauty of life.
You understand that hardship and setbacks are an essential part of life and worrying
about them isn't going to change anything.
Third, self motivation
have you ever watched a motivation video or a movie that suddenly motivated you, made
you feel energetic and ambitious to go out there and change the world or become the person
that history will remember for centuries to come.
You suddenly felt that you can achieve what seemed to be impossible before and thats all
because of your emotions.
In other words, knowing how to better manage your emotions can help you to keep yourself
motivated consistently to stay focused on your goals.
fourth, empathy
But being emotionally intelligent isn't only about understanding your own emotions
but rather the emotions of people you are dealing with.
Understanding what they feel and why they feel like that.
Weather its sadness, misery or perhaps envy, you will be to approach them in the way they
would want to be approached which will help you to build a strong relationship with that
person.
What does it means to put yourself in other persons shoes and look at the situation from
their perspective.
Imagine how many arguments we could have avoided or how many relationships we would have saved
if we would good at empathy.
Often break ups for example happen when we fail to understand each others emotions.This
is by far the most important social skill.
and lastly, handling relationships
This has to do more with leadership, Charisma and popularity.
Managing people is probably what distinguishes successful people from rest of us.
If you just take a look at those whom you consider to be successful, weather its a great
entrepreneur or a politician, you will realize that the common trait amongst all of them
is that they could inspire people to follow them, their ideas and beliefs.
In fact, studies have proven we our emotions are contagious, they spread like viruses.
Thats why you find great speakers energising their audience.
In short, this is what emotional intelligence is all about, and getting better at these
5 things is far more important than your IQ.
This video is based on the book Emotional intelligence by Daniel Goleman and its filled
with lessons that can help you to master your emotions and significantly improve your life
in all areas.
I have left the link in the description if you want to get the book.
And now its your turn, what do you think?
Do you still believe than IQ is more important than EQ? or emotional intelligence plays a
much bigger role in our life?
I would love to know your opinion?
And as always, thank you for watching, give this video a thumbs if you have enjoyed and
I will see you in the next one.
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